Happy Mother’s Day to all of our AMAZING moms! This month I want to remind each of you of a gift you have … Mother’s Intuition. It really is a beautiful gift.
In your lifetime, you will be approached by many people seeking to give you advice. Some of it you will take in and use, and some of it won’t be a good fit for you at all. I want to urge you to listen to your mother’s intuition, that gut feeling that only you have. It is better to error in favor of your intuition than to error in favor of someone else’s (when it doesn’t feel right).
While you won’t always be accurate (none of us are), choosing to trust your own gut provides this: when you look back, you can rest in the fact that, right or wrong, you did the very best you could with the information, resources and circumstances that were in front of you at that time. If, however, you go against your gut and listen to someone else, that usually comes with regret that can be hard to get over, especially if the outcome is not good. We can forgive ourselves for honest mistakes. We have a harder time forgiving ourselves when we do something against our better judgment. Be careful. Be brave. Be willing to trust yourself. And be willing to listen to input. Considering all angles will assist you in making the best decisions.
There is one caveat. If you and your spouse have different thoughts on a topic, you don’t discard his ideas in favor of your intuition. It’s important to work as a team. Discuss the issue, share your thoughts and feelings, listen to his as well, and come to a decision together. Invest in your marriage so you have mutual trust and respect. That way, when you come across those big decisions and are not in agreement (which happens), you can work together to make a choice that you both feel good about.
When you have one of those feelings that something’s not right, it’s a little bit off, or you need to check on something, trust it. Teach your children to trust their intuition as well. The KEY will be in asking questions and having clarifying conversations. You do not want to make assumptions. Instead, you want to clarify. This is especially important as a parent. You can alienate your children or you can bond with them. It’s all in how you communicate.
One of the reasons I believe our intuition is so strong is that we have grown this human being inside our body. That’s amazing! The umbilical cord connects this growing child to everything that keeps us alive. When that cord is cut and our physical bodies are separated at birth, the months of connection and relationship do not suddenly end; that was just the beginning. Feed the connection through consistent and loving communication and it will last a lifetime.
When I lost my mother 12 years ago, I felt my world shake at its core. There was a root in my life that I wasn’t even aware of, that felt like it had just been pulled out of the ground, out of my very soul. That’s how deeply mothers touch their children. We have been given a true gift as mothers. May we cherish it and use it to pass on wisdom, love and humanity to our children. Happy Mother’s Day!
Traci L. Williams is the Founder of A Loving Way to Parent. She is known for her practical parenting style. Her free parenting newsletter is available at www.alovingway.com. She can be reached directly at 951-240-1407 or firstname.lastname@example.org for a free 15-minute telephone consultation.