Valentine’s Day can be stressful, especially when we are trying to “guess” the perfect restaurant to take her to, what dinner he would love made for him, what flowers would be best (and affordable), what kind of chocolates, etc. If you would like to take the stress out of Valentine’s Day ~ and actually get what you want ~ try these simple secrets:
Secret No. 1
Whether you are male or female, if you have an expectation of what would make you happy on Valentine’s Day, tell your partner. Why make them guess and take a chance on getting it wrong? Then everybody is disappointed. I suggest giving them a list of the various things that would make you happy. Let them pick from that list. It accomplishes two things: (a) you are still surprised; and (b) they get to win by picking something you want! This is what Valentine’s Day is all about ~ love. Be loving to your partner and make it easy for them to win.
Secret No. 2
If you have children, plan ahead to have couple time and family time, if that is important to you. There is no reason you can’t have some romantic time with your partner AND enjoy sharing this holiday with your kids. It is a great time to begin modeling for our children how to be kind and loving to our loved ones by making it easy to win. Have them create a list and give them your list as well. They LOVE to make us happy!
Secret No. 3
If money is an issue, and it is for a lot of people, talk about that with your partner. Be open to having that conversation. Decide what is important to each of you and to your family in the context of Valentine’s Day. Is it having a great dinner out? Creating an experience at home? Is it about gifts? Is it about cards and expressions of love? What is important to each of you? How does the budget fit into that? What is the “plan” for how to create win/win? No need for guessing. No disappointment. And, you can still surprise each other. Be creative. Most of all, communicate. What do each of you want and how do you create that within your budget? Make it easy and enjoyable.
This is a beautiful quote that is perfect for February …
“Love is the nourishment of the soul.” ~Osho
Just remember this quote when you are looking to share love with another. What would nourish their soul? Ask them. Get a list. Then surprise them as often as you can. Their inner Light will shine like the brightest star in the sky.
Happy Valentine’s Day! May you enjoy love, connection and peace.
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